Healing - does it exist? Or is it “ignis fatuus”!

 It has been hard few years, almost 30 now since I started to see the world with different lenses each time, I had a bad or an ugly perspicacity.

And most will agree, once you have been there; it becomes enduring to trust further.

I prefer not to use another synonym for TRUST because it is an extremely powerful appellation!

For me personally, my whole world and life revolves around this expression – be it through words or actions.

Once trust is faltered – that is pretty much the epilogue; given any situation or a person.

Healing is very kindred to trust – and trust needs to be faltered to heal – every single feeling starts with TRUST - be it love, affection, warmth, respect, admiration.

You love, respect, admire only if you have TRUST; be it in yourself or the other person or situation.

Healing is subjective and connected to grief – faltered trust comes with grief.

I believe grief is the worst ardour in the system, next to guilt. Guilt is still by far the worst for me, personally and I may write separately on it but let us just try and broach grief.

It is also hard to write about grief without referring to any specific situations, but I am trying because grief is subjective, yet it is only auxiliary to one feeling called “love” in absolutely any locus.

Love is connected to any loss; as much as love is selfish, it brings grief whether you forsake a part of you, a feeling or someone; the “act of letting go”.

People heal differently from disparate grief; they tend to turn to spiritual, religious, psychologists learneds, books or turn to music, alcohol; any damn thing that would take their minds off grief.

 One usually never heals from it; you just learn to live with the scars/ wounds and that is why healing is unendurable.


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